Friday, May 23, 2008

Maybe it's ME

Jerry and I were driving around today, trying to find a place that has these fancy schmancy roof tiles we've been looking into (ceramic covered steel) when Pat called. Pat and I talked for a few minutes about when she'd be back in Texas (she's been on her yacht cruising the Bahama's for the past ... however long), what their future plans are, blah blah blah.
After we hung up I started contemplating why I don't really have any friends to spent time with here in Texas. At least ones that I don't have to hound (sorry, Hazel!) or feel obligated because they are my visiting teacher (sad but true, Colette) to spend time with me. Where do I find friends? What do I get involved into meet people? Then I started wondering ... and said out loud, "Maybe I don't have any friends because I'm not a good friend." Jerry didn't reply. I am going assume he didn't reply because he thought I was just being silly and didn't really BELIEVE it. However, that of course put me into some what of a tizzy.
Am I not a good friend? Am I too abrasive? Am I too sarcastic? Am I too honest? Am I not reliable enough? Am I not thoughtful enough? Am I boring? !!!
I can't be that terrible of a friend; when I go to Canada I barely have enough time in a month to spend time with all my friends and family. Even then, I usually leave with a few people I haven't seen and are dissatisfied we haven't been able to get together. So I must have some redeeming qualities.

6 comments:

Mandy said...

You are far from boring, sarcastic...yes, abrasive...at times. But I like it, if others don't they're missing out. But don't forget you are a mom now, moms don't have real friends...at least it seems to be that way. All of my real friends are all from my pre-married and pre-mom days. For some reason it just seems to be less convenient or something to make friend once you have kids. I have people I like to talk with, even have play dates with, spend time with at Enrichment....but I can't say I really have anybody that I would just hang out with just to hang out with. I hate that sometimes...and really miss it at time too.

Gary said...

I recognize the self-defence mechanism at work in not answering your query. It could be interpreted as a rhetorical question. Sometimes with you women, there are no right answers... Even if we agree with you, it could get us killed, 'Yes, you're a bad friend', If we say 'no, you're a great friend', then you think we're just saying it to make you feel better. Sometimes when the flashing red warning light comes on, we're not sure how to proceed.

I'll bet $20 that Cindy Crawford's husband doesn't answer her when she asks him if she looks fat...

Jenie said...

You are an example of what a real friend should be like. At least to me you are. You are generous and fun to be with. You constantly go out of your way to help out your friends. I agree with Mandy once we become Moms it is a lot more difficult to make and keep strong, lasting friendships.

mom said...

I already tried this once and it didn't print, WHY ALWAYS ME?? I'll try again. You are not only a mom but a stay at home mom and thats pretty rare especially in your neck of the woods, but Jenie is right you are a true friend, very generous and always fun to be with we always have a great time and theres no one I'd rather spend time with. If you were working you'd make friends very fast because you would be able to actually meet people in an atmoshpere condusive to friendship. I really wish that Jerry would commit to being home SOMETIME consistantly so you could have a little time for YOU to join a social club of some kind or get a little part time job anything to get out and meet different people, you need time for you

TinaLaRae said...

What, you not a good friend???? Krista you are a great friend! I think it would be hard to make new friends somewhere I never grew up and especialy if my husband kept to himself. I hope we'll be able to get together when you come up.

Heather said...

You are a good friend. That I know for sure. Maybe it's that everyone else is just so dang busy or absorbed in their own lives.

I"ve had the same thoughts myself. Perhaps if Steve-o and I were active at church we'd have more friends. But, since we aren't, we don't.